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So Your Partner Is
Interested In Nudism?
We have never met, but I am
taking the liberty to write you because I understand that your
significant other has become interested in nudism or clothes-free
recreation. You are wondering whether or not to share in this. My
husband and I are nudists, and like you, we both experienced all the
concerns and uncertainties the first time we tried it. All the vague
fears and worries I fretted about proved groundless. I would like to
help you experience and become comfortable with this lifestyle. I hope
you will let me try.
Perhaps telling about my first experience with nude recreation will lead
you to that end. I was vacationing at a resort in the Caribbean. The
first two days were spent on the beach sitting in a soggy swimsuit and
being chafed by sand. I signed up for a day boat trip and picnic at a
beach on an island away from the resort. As we were leaving, I
discovered that the excursion was to an island with a nude beach! I
decided to go anyway, thinking no way was anybody getting me out of my
suit. I stood firm, and in fact, was the last person to give in and shed
my swimsuit - I was the last one to get dressed to return to the resort.
Why hadn't someone told me about this sooner? I was hooked, and that was
over 30 years ago. The phrase, "nude when possible, clothed when
practical," definitely describes me. I do wear at least shoes when
vacuuming the house though as I have a habit of running over my toes
with the vacuum cleaner.
I admit that my first reaction was that this is something that was not
an acceptable practice. I was unaware that there are national
organizations and did not know anyone who could shed light on this
relaxing way of life. The literature available today, some of which your
significant other might have asked you to look over, tells it like it
is. Everyone will tell you that once you have made your first visit, the
feeling of apprehension will vanish. Until you experience a thing for
yourself, words cannot tell you how you should feel or how you should
act or react.
Believe in your mate. You have a good relationship, and I'm sure your
significant other has never asked you to do anything that was wrong or
really unpleasant. Occasionally, we don't want to do some things at
first, but since it means a great deal to him, it usually turns out
fine. This too, means a great deal to him. When you decide to visit a
club, give them a call and inform them that this will be your first
visit. Contrary to what most people believe, you generally will not be
asked to leave your clothes at the gate. You will be given a tour of the
premises, where the pool or hot tub, or other facilities are located. If
you are visiting a non-landed club, you will most likely visit with some
of the members at a neutral location, i.e., coffee shop, after which you
will be invited to an event.
Some common fears of women with whom I have been in contact include
being secretly worried that she wouldn't be as attractive to her spouse
as she had been, compared with all the beautiful figures she was sure
must be there.
For the most part, there is a normal cross-section of the population.
The solution for this particular lady was the security she felt in her
relationship and that the relationship was based on more than just
physical attractiveness. Another fear is what sort of people will I
meet. You will meet doctors, lawyers, clergymen and women, taxi drivers,
accountants, secretaries, warehouse- men, waiters, school teachers,
moms, dads, grandparents, teenagers, infants. We are your neighbors,
your friends.
It's a wonderful feeling to meet entirely new people and enjoy new
interests and activities. There is a peculiar thing you have to
experience to believe, but there is a friendliness about nudists that
you will generally not find in any other group. I have come to count our
nudist friends among my closest. They seem to always be there for me,
for us.
Why don't you try your hand at being a nudist in your own home. Try
sleeping nude, if you don't already--once you get used to it, you won't
want to sleep any other way.
That's the first easy step. Then, when you take your shower or bath,
don't grab for a robe except for comfort. Do your nails or set your hair
or just read the newspaper. I think you will enjoy it. If you exercise,
try it without clothes, it feels wonderful. Wear whatever you need to
feel comfortable. Since it's convenient and healthful at times to
dispense with clothes, nudists do. We're not different from other
people, just more comfortable.
I hope I've been able to help just a little. Offer a compromise to your
mate. Give him an hour of your time, you will wish you had sooner.
Sincerely,
Cheri Donna
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This post on Fig Leaf Forum is by "Sean":
It was about a year ago that I shared with her my
interest in nude recreation. Until this point I had never been nude with
others or nude outdoors, only in my room. Her objections were that it's
immodest and in her words "inappropriate" to be nude around anyone but
your
spouse.
The best thing we did was go through some Fig Leaf Forum articles on the
things she based her resistance on, and (on her own) she began to change
her mind. She wasn't fully convinced but she was at least willing to
give
it a try.
So in June of this past year we made our first visit to a local nudist
club. She was nude except for a T-shirt at first but after about 30
minutes
she took it off. We kept to ourselves at first: played horseshoes alone,
had lunch, toured the grounds. But eventually we got warm and headed for
the pool. She covered up with a towel as we approached but took it off
before entering the pool (obviously). Well, after that she only had the
towel with her if she was going to sit on it! By the end of the
afternoon
she was already talking about our next visit.
On the way home we talked about the day and confessed that we were both
very anxious, especially when we first pulled in and saw all the nude
people about. I had never seen anyone nude outdoors (let alone other
women)
but it really became second-nature by the end of the day.
It was a Saturday but early in June in our state there are warm and hot
days, and this day was just warm so there weren't that many people. She
later told me she was really glad there weren't many people and that
about
half of them were women (she was worried it would be all men and she'd
be
the only young woman).
The best time we had was the Fourth of July festivities. Everyone was
there
practically. There was a volleyball tournament (which she didn't play in
because she doesn't like volleyball, but she cheered me on) and later
everyone decorated their golf carts and there was a parade. It was a
VERY
hot day and the pool was packed! It was tons of fun.
So, we're looking forward to paying a few more visits this summer. After
we're married we'll look more into becoming members (not at the place we
visited...we go to school on the other side of the state so it would be
too
much of a drive).
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This post is by "SunnyDay":
Thanks for sharing so much about how you and she got started with nude
recreation last summer. That's a beautiful story of caring and
consideration and communication in how you introduced the idea and
worked
through it together, and that you didn't go any faster than she was
comfortable with. That's so important in relationships.
It was fun to read about that first day at the nudist club, too.
Sounds like you chose a good place to ease into it. That was a
perfect example for others who may be thinking about trying it
to see how you can go and not have to instantly go nude in a big
crowd.
They can be like your girlfriend and wear a T-shirt for a
while or wrap up in a towel at first and you can also be off by
yourselves away from others. These are all good ideas to ease into
it. A lot of people probably don't think about that. I hope you get
to go again many times this summer.
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